Comments for http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog Tue, 11 Jun 2013 10:58:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 Comment on How Liberal Brain Damage Produced the Steubenville School Rape Video by Anonymous Conservative http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/liberal-brain-damage-stuebenville-school-rape-video/#comment-25383 Anonymous Conservative Tue, 11 Jun 2013 10:58:29 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=904#comment-25383 Thank you for the kind words. Thank you for the kind words.

]]> Comment on Stupid Liberal Economic Decision Making Will Collapse Civilization – How To Protect Your Savings Accounts From Leftist Politicians and Globalist Banksters by Anonymous Conservative http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/stupid-liberal-economic-decision-making-will-collapse-civilization-how-to-protect-your-savings-accounts-from-leftist-politicians-and-globalist-banksters/#comment-25382 Anonymous Conservative Tue, 11 Jun 2013 10:55:52 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=894#comment-25382 It is unavoidable, and it is coming. It is unavoidable, and it is coming.

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by D http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-25204 D Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:18:57 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-25204 One more thing! I had thought of going to the administration with all of his emails...I wasn't sure if he would give me a good grade for my directed study (he did...an A.). But -- he just got a national award for being an engaged professor. No one will believe me...I feel like I am the only one who has experienced him this way. Most people don't have him for 4 consecutive semesters...only 1 or 2. Is it possible for someone to be a "situational narcissist"?? I have really felt like I am losing my mind, and he takes over my thoughts almost completely. One more thing! I had thought of going to the administration with all of his emails…I wasn’t sure if he would give me a good grade for my directed study (he did…an A.). But — he just got a national award for being an engaged professor. No one will believe me…I feel like I am the only one who has experienced him this way. Most people don’t have him for 4 consecutive semesters…only 1 or 2. Is it possible for someone to be a “situational narcissist”?? I have really felt like I am losing my mind, and he takes over my thoughts almost completely.

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by D http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-25203 D Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:13:18 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-25203 This is by far the best article I have read on dealing with a narcissist. I have an unusual situation which I will try to explain briefly. My narc is my former professor. He is in his 50s...but I am in my 40s, and we hit it off SO WELL in the beginning...and that was only when I took his online courses. We had occassion to meet in person at an event...and there was instant chemistry -- I honestly "felt" the spark. We are both married -- he for over 30 years...me for over 20 years...and I have 7 children. Anyway...he initiated an email "relationship" - ? - with me over time. Eventually he offered me a directed study (he is a history prof, and I am majoring in history, which was one of the reasons we "clicked"). After I took an entire year's worth of his online courses, I signed up for his on campus class (he only teaches one..and at that, he co-teaches with a female prof who has a very bold and independent personality), and during that semester, the emails back and forth numbered in the hundreds, and at all hours of the day and night. They were long, and honestly, they were kind and supportive and intelligent, and for the most part they were on-topic (history and world cultures related), but occassionally they would divert to personal issues, but nothing that was inappropriate. The bottom line: I fell in love with this guy. I used to hear from other profs, "Wow - D. really likes you..." My daughter was on the same campus as I and knew him, and whenever he saw her on campus, he would rave about me, my daughter would come home telling me...she thought it was strange. He had offered the directed study to me a year in advance...now that I think about it, he was probably securing narc. supply for the future. But anyway, when the time came for the directed study, he completely sabotaged it. He continually switched the track of the study (it was on the Middle East...a zillion different directions and a very broad topic), and at this point, the emails STOPPED almost cold. He would not disucss anything with me via email related to the study at all, and almost never responded to any email, or if he did, it was unrelated to the question and had no relevance to the course. Before the study, though, I honestly thought he was my best friend. I was coming out of a difficult life circumstance, which he knew about, and was extremely supportive. Then the communication stopped. Then, at the end of the semester, he almost seemed to be...acting more "normal"? After I graduated - just a couple weeks ago, he sent me a a few long emails, just like "before". But here is the clincher. I am receiving a scholarship at a ceremony next Friday. He will be there -- he nominated me for the scholarship along with a group of other people (he is the director of the honors program at the college) in the honors program, and I am sure they are all women. I am honestly afraid to go to this ceremony. It has only been in the past couple of weeks, through a lot of research and reading, that I have determined he is narcissist, probably a cerebral narcissist, and I am dreading interacting with him at this upcoming event. He has never been outwardly mean...of course, who could accuse him of being mean after offering me a directed study and recommending me for a scholarship?? He also wrote me a recommendation for another scholarship I received earlier in the year, and came to that ceremony, where I was subjected to the "narcissist stare" while receiving my award up at the podium. I have moved on (this was a community college) to a local university, where he is also an adjunct professor...and out of the blue the other day, he emailed me - very short - just to "keep in touch"-- from his home email address to my new email address at my new university. I'm relaying all this because although I have been going to a therapist, she seems unaccquainted with how dangerous and how addictive this guy is/can be, and I really don't know how to proceed from here. He displays all the classic signs, the over-valuation, the devaluation, the shunning, the intermittent reinforcement, the mixed messages...(whenever he used to mention his wife in email or in conversation was when I also felt that he was the most attracted to me, or trying to make me attracted to him, as weird as that sounds...though "attracted" is a relevant term with a narc.). Your thoughts and advice welcome, please! I don't know how to break free of him, and have noticed that a few other profs (all female) who I had been close to at the community college now have nothing to do with me...and am afraid for my future at my new school, where he has access to my current profs. Thanks.... "D" This is by far the best article I have read on dealing with a narcissist. I have an unusual situation which I will try to explain briefly. My narc is my former professor. He is in his 50s…but I am in my 40s, and we hit it off SO WELL in the beginning…and that was only when I took his online courses. We had occassion to meet in person at an event…and there was instant chemistry — I honestly “felt” the spark. We are both married — he for over 30 years…me for over 20 years…and I have 7 children. Anyway…he initiated an email “relationship” – ? – with me over time. Eventually he offered me a directed study (he is a history prof, and I am majoring in history, which was one of the reasons we “clicked”). After I took an entire year’s worth of his online courses, I signed up for his on campus class (he only teaches one..and at that, he co-teaches with a female prof who has a very bold and independent personality), and during that semester, the emails back and forth numbered in the hundreds, and at all hours of the day and night. They were long, and honestly, they were kind and supportive and intelligent, and for the most part they were on-topic (history and world cultures related), but occassionally they would divert to personal issues, but nothing that was inappropriate. The bottom line: I fell in love with this guy. I used to hear from other profs, “Wow – D. really likes you…” My daughter was on the same campus as I and knew him, and whenever he saw her on campus, he would rave about me, my daughter would come home telling me…she thought it was strange.

He had offered the directed study to me a year in advance…now that I think about it, he was probably securing narc. supply for the future. But anyway, when the time came for the directed study, he completely sabotaged it. He continually switched the track of the study (it was on the Middle East…a zillion different directions and a very broad topic), and at this point, the emails STOPPED almost cold. He would not disucss anything with me via email related to the study at all, and almost never responded to any email, or if he did, it was unrelated to the question and had no relevance to the course. Before the study, though, I honestly thought he was my best friend. I was coming out of a difficult life circumstance, which he knew about, and was extremely supportive. Then the communication stopped. Then, at the end of the semester, he almost seemed to be…acting more “normal”? After I graduated – just a couple weeks ago, he sent me a a few long emails, just like “before”. But here is the clincher. I am receiving a scholarship at a ceremony next Friday. He will be there — he nominated me for the scholarship along with a group of other people (he is the director of the honors program at the college) in the honors program, and I am sure they are all women. I am honestly afraid to go to this ceremony. It has only been in the past couple of weeks, through a lot of research and reading, that I have determined he is narcissist, probably a cerebral narcissist, and I am dreading interacting with him at this upcoming event. He has never been outwardly mean…of course, who could accuse him of being mean after offering me a directed study and recommending me for a scholarship?? He also wrote me a recommendation for another scholarship I received earlier in the year, and came to that ceremony, where I was subjected to the “narcissist stare” while receiving my award up at the podium. I have moved on (this was a community college) to a local university, where he is also an adjunct professor…and out of the blue the other day, he emailed me – very short – just to “keep in touch”– from his home email address to my new email address at my new university.

I’m relaying all this because although I have been going to a therapist, she seems unaccquainted with how dangerous and how addictive this guy is/can be, and I really don’t know how to proceed from here. He displays all the classic signs, the over-valuation, the devaluation, the shunning, the intermittent reinforcement, the mixed messages…(whenever he used to mention his wife in email or in conversation was when I also felt that he was the most attracted to me, or trying to make me attracted to him, as weird as that sounds…though “attracted” is a relevant term with a narc.).

Your thoughts and advice welcome, please! I don’t know how to break free of him, and have noticed that a few other profs (all female) who I had been close to at the community college now have nothing to do with me…and am afraid for my future at my new school, where he has access to my current profs.

Thanks….
“D”

]]> Comment on Stupid Liberal Economic Decision Making Will Collapse Civilization – How To Protect Your Savings Accounts From Leftist Politicians and Globalist Banksters by Entropy is my god http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/stupid-liberal-economic-decision-making-will-collapse-civilization-how-to-protect-your-savings-accounts-from-leftist-politicians-and-globalist-banksters/#comment-25145 Entropy is my god Fri, 07 Jun 2013 16:08:10 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=894#comment-25145 Pray for the collapse to be swift. In chaos the r types will receive the just deserts they so long for. Pray for the collapse to be swift. In chaos the r types will receive the just deserts they so long for.

]]> Comment on How Liberal Brain Damage Produced the Steubenville School Rape Video by Timothy Smith http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/liberal-brain-damage-stuebenville-school-rape-video/#comment-25075 Timothy Smith Thu, 06 Jun 2013 03:18:44 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=904#comment-25075 Fantastic! For a long time I have searched for a sensible explanation for the heinous droanings of sociologists, apologists, relativists, and other types of Leftists, and I believe you have found something concrete and accessible to a Conservative mindset. I am finally coming to understand how a mere presentation of facts can trigger foaming-at-the-mouth responses from leftists, especially those who had their brains damaged by too much ( any ) liberal indoctrination at universities, and how an understanding of these fundamental differences can be used to destroy the brains ( and physiologies ) of cowards and bunny-people... Keep up the good work, I shall buy your book as soon as possible! Fantastic!

For a long time I have searched for a sensible explanation for the heinous droanings of sociologists, apologists, relativists, and other types of Leftists, and I believe you have found something concrete and accessible to a Conservative mindset.

I am finally coming to understand how a mere presentation of facts can trigger foaming-at-the-mouth responses from leftists, especially those who had their brains damaged by too much ( any ) liberal indoctrination at universities, and how an understanding of these fundamental differences can be used to destroy the brains ( and physiologies ) of cowards and bunny-people…

Keep up the good work, I shall buy your book as soon as possible!

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by Anonymous Conservative http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-24907 Anonymous Conservative Fri, 31 May 2013 22:28:43 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-24907 It is difficult to offer advice, because there are different types of Narcissists. Some are just focused on pleasing themselves, and avoiding personal pain and anxiety at all costs. They screw others over, but it is secondary to their pursuit of their own happiness. Others are Malignant, and they actually drive everyone around them down, rather than seek to lift themselves up. They are dangerous, because they can do things you wouldn't expect, like spike food to make others sick, or even kill, if they get panicked enough. You might be best served consulting with a psychiatrist specializing in Narcissism. They can query you, develop a rough diagnosis of his unique characteristics (without talking to him - just off your experiences and perceptions), and assess what kind of risk he poses. I know many say even a Narcissist parent is better than no parent, and you should preserve the relationship at all costs, but I am quite certain some relationships should be minimized, or terminated. Whether yours is one, I cannot say from here with any degree of certainty. Just know you should keep all doors open, and preserve hope. A lot can happen in a year, and he will always do what is best for himself. Maybe he will find a job on the other side of the country, or maybe someone will recommend him for a job on the other side of the country. Good luck with your daughter, and know, these things always work out. Probably the worst outcome is she will go into the world knowing the bad which is out there, which isn't so bad itself. Just keep her safe, and you will both be alright. It is difficult to offer advice, because there are different types of Narcissists. Some are just focused on pleasing themselves, and avoiding personal pain and anxiety at all costs. They screw others over, but it is secondary to their pursuit of their own happiness. Others are Malignant, and they actually drive everyone around them down, rather than seek to lift themselves up. They are dangerous, because they can do things you wouldn’t expect, like spike food to make others sick, or even kill, if they get panicked enough.

You might be best served consulting with a psychiatrist specializing in Narcissism. They can query you, develop a rough diagnosis of his unique characteristics (without talking to him – just off your experiences and perceptions), and assess what kind of risk he poses. I know many say even a Narcissist parent is better than no parent, and you should preserve the relationship at all costs, but I am quite certain some relationships should be minimized, or terminated. Whether yours is one, I cannot say from here with any degree of certainty.

Just know you should keep all doors open, and preserve hope. A lot can happen in a year, and he will always do what is best for himself. Maybe he will find a job on the other side of the country, or maybe someone will recommend him for a job on the other side of the country.

Good luck with your daughter, and know, these things always work out. Probably the worst outcome is she will go into the world knowing the bad which is out there, which isn’t so bad itself. Just keep her safe, and you will both be alright.

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by Anonymous http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-24594 Anonymous Fri, 24 May 2013 23:08:35 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-24594 You mentioned... If I am involved with a narcissist, the best option is to evade and never look back. What if this person (the N) is the father of my child? It's not so easy to escape... And I DO NOT want to "appease" him or show anger. What can I do? Do you have info on where I can seek help? We were never married, nor is there a parenting plan. In my state, him and I have equal rights right now. I'm lucky that he is gone in another State for the next year for career purposes, and my child will have a normal life with me until then (she isn't even a year old yet).... But I'm so fearful for what's to come in the future. He is smart, handsome, and capable.. only 26 years old and has the world fooled.. aside from me i think. i dont want to start pointing fingers now, then I look like the crazy one... He hasn't really made a scene or made himself known to anyone... But I know. I lived with him for almost 3 years... I just know.. But I have no proof so I can't say or do anything. I feel very stuck. Any advice or any source that I can get in touch with would help tremendously. -jc You mentioned… If I am involved with a narcissist, the best option is to evade and never look back. What if this person (the N) is the father of my child? It’s not so easy to escape… And I DO NOT want to “appease” him or show anger. What can I do? Do you have info on where I can seek help? We were never married, nor is there a parenting plan. In my state, him and I have equal rights right now. I’m lucky that he is gone in another
State for the next year for career purposes, and my child will have a normal life with me until then (she isn’t even a year old yet)…. But I’m so fearful for what’s to come in the future. He is smart, handsome, and capable.. only 26 years old and has the world fooled.. aside from me i think. i dont want to start pointing fingers now, then I look like the crazy one… He hasn’t really made a scene or made himself known to anyone… But I know. I lived with him for almost 3 years… I just know.. But I have no proof so I can’t say or do anything. I feel very stuck. Any advice or any source that I can get in touch with would help tremendously.

-jc

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by Judy http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-24352 Judy Sun, 19 May 2013 18:47:00 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-24352 Thanks so much for the insight - I just spent a few days away from home visiting my family and I am all hurt, confused and trying to understand what part of what is happening is my fault - what sin is mine to confess. It as always been like this when I visit my family. But three years ago my sister went too far - she really hurt me - I felt it through my heart and my gut and I have to say that it is not even something I can repeat it is that ugly. Of course she has done this over the years and I have done my best to protect myself - up until then, as she is a little sister, and I had always forgiven her - I need to add here that never did she ever ask for forgiveness - it is as if she feels she has lisence to discredite, undermine, and spin negativity with even the brightess of light. Since the last major incident, three years ago, I have been determined to keep her out of my life - I say as little as possible to her as I can about my life. Now I have our other sister and our mom determined to have me make peace with her. I have become the problem, apparently, as our family no longer has the illusion of a big happy family. I am not angry with her, I forgave her but I feel I am the fool if I keep putting myself in harms way - I am doing my best to keep her away to protect myself from further pain. I have tried all of the other strategies to deal with her - nothing works - somewhere along the line she started being in competition with me - a game she is playing by herself. Thank you again, I have a better understanding of what is happening and I am more sure than ever that what I feel I need to do is the right thing. Stay away from her. Thanks so much for the insight – I just spent a few days away from home visiting my family and I am all hurt, confused and trying to understand what part of what is happening is my fault – what sin is mine to confess. It as always been like this when I visit my family. But three years ago my sister went too far – she really hurt me – I felt it through my heart and my gut and I have to say that it is not even something I can repeat it is that ugly. Of course she has done this over the years and I have done my best to protect myself – up until then, as she is a little sister, and I had always forgiven her – I need to add here that never did she ever ask for forgiveness – it is as if she feels she has lisence to discredite, undermine, and spin negativity with even the brightess of light. Since the last major incident, three years ago, I have been determined to keep her out of my life – I say as little as possible to her as I can about my life. Now I have our other sister and our mom determined to have me make peace with her. I have become the problem, apparently, as our family no longer has the illusion of a big happy family. I am not angry with her, I forgave her but I feel I am the fool if I keep putting myself in harms way – I am doing my best to keep her away to protect myself from further pain. I have tried all of the other strategies to deal with her – nothing works – somewhere along the line she started being in competition with me – a game she is playing by herself. Thank you again, I have a better understanding of what is happening and I am more sure than ever that what I feel I need to do is the right thing. Stay away from her.

]]> Comment on On Strategies for Dealing with Narcissists in Family and Social Circles by C http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/on-strategies-for-dealing-with-narcissists-in-family-and-social-circles/#comment-24316 C Sat, 18 May 2013 19:38:36 +0000 http://www.anonymousconservative.com/blog/?p=725#comment-24316 Thank you so much for taking time to respond with such honesty. I appreciate it very much. I have separated myself from this Narc. But am suffering for it. family Members seem to be believing her and of course feel so sorry for her. I feel sorry for her, but not that way..I feel sorry that anyone has to live in such a terrible state. I want to know , since she has moved closer to the bulk of family, and seems to be starting some of this behavior with another relative, Could she be dangerous? I mean in the Physicial sense? could She really do bodily Harm? thank you again This is eye opening! Thank you so much for taking time to respond with such honesty. I appreciate it very much. I have separated myself from this Narc. But am suffering for it. family Members seem to be believing her and of course feel so sorry for her. I feel sorry for her, but not that way..I feel sorry that anyone has to live in such a terrible state.
I want to know , since she has moved closer to the bulk of family, and seems to be starting some of this behavior with another relative, Could she be dangerous? I mean in the Physicial sense? could She really do bodily Harm?
thank you again This is eye opening!

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